How We Used to Eat
Do you remember as a child how “going out to eat” was so exciting…it was a privilege– a reward, was it not?
We’d have home-cooked meals every day and maybe—MAYBE once per week we’d get to go out to eat.
*commence the choir sounds*
Whether it was because we got the ‘reader of the week’ book club award at Pizza Hut or our family wanted to have a ‘special night’ –we indulged ourselves, but not often. And it was Oh So Appreciated.
Our eyes would fill to the brim with sparkling excitement about getting a ‘happy meal’ or having our favorite pizza. We’d all load into the car and drive to the restaurant and as we entered the door our noses would be filled with the smells of reward….fried, fatty foods wafting into the foyer….
What Happened to the Good Ol’ Days of Rewards
Now, we indulge ourselves daily, maybe several times per day. We swing through a fast food joint for a ‘breakfast sandwich’, we pick up pizza or burgers for lunch. We order out or go out several times per week.
The novelty of ‘going out to eat’ has worn off. We stopped ‘rewarding’ ourselves because we live a life of convenience and instant gratification.
There is the key. Instant gratification.
Instant Gratification is the Root Cause of Obesity (and Failure)
As a result, we have reprogrammed our taste buds and cravings to ‘good food’. We want, and get, fried, fatty, fast foods all the time because we want it, we are in a rush…we want it now.
We have diluted our taste buds’ ability to truly taste ‘good food’. Slathered in fat, salt and processed foods, we can’t even appreciate the sweet tang of a fresh strawberry—if a molten lava chocolate cake is sitting right next to it.
We have forgotten the purpose of food is to provide nutrients, first. Taste is just a bonus.
No one is saying we shouldn’t enjoy ‘good taste’, but we shouldn’t indulge in ‘good’ tastes all the time.
This approach to living is why we have the obesity problems we have today. It’s also why all the ‘magic pills’ and ‘lose 30 pounds in one month’ programs actually make money—LOTS OF IT—because people nowadays want the easy way out.
Get Rich Quick | Get Skinny Now | Get Fast Food
Give me, give me now.
We stopped rewarding ourselves. We lost the desire to reward. The purpose of a reward is to acknowledge some expended effort that produced a remarkable result. Eating right and exercising=reward. Working hard up the ladder= reward. Passing an exam, getting a promotion, graduating school=reward.
But if we continue to reward ourselves without earning it– we are precisely what we’d call children who get whatever they want: spoiled.
Spoiling Ourselves Spoils Our Results
We’ve spoiled ourselves. We’ve eradicated the ‘family night out’. We’ve turned our lives into robotic and automatic satisfaction. We’ve lost passion to know what it feels like to be rewarded.
While we’re spoiling ourselves, we are doing so much damage. Not only to us, but to our children. What are we teaching them?
They can’t expect the most expensive electronics if they’re getting bad grades and not doing chores, right? They have to earn the things they want. They need to learn to appreciate the value of hard work…right?
What are we teaching them by rewarding them daily with fast food? It’s certainly not a reward….its a way of life.
You don’t get your dreams by rewarding yourself daily. Your goals will not be achieved if you pick the drive through over the stove. It just won’t.
All We See is Mountaintops
EVERYBODY wants to be a “CEO”. They want their dreams and they want it now.
But when you see success—that CEO, perfect abs, lean body, first place body builder—all you see is the mountaintop. You don’t see the valleys they trudged through to reach the top.
You don’t see what they had to go through to get that title, body, trophy…it took place in the valleys. It takes sacrifice, discipline and delayed gratification. It takes commitment. It takes putting off rewarding yourself so you can achieve your dreams.
They didn’t get CEO upon graduation. They didn’t get skinny with a pill.
You don’t achieve body goals without working so hard you’re fighting fatigue AND your mind that urges you to quit—but you keep going. You delay gratification…because you know it will be worth it.
These people you want to be like–worked for it. You can be just like them….you can have whatever they have, but you can’t take shortcuts. It just doesn’t work.
Reward Yourself, but Earn it First
It starts with change. Change your need for instant gratification. Stop hitting the drive through, stop expecting things to come to you, stop buying into get rick quick schemes and magic pills…..stop indulging yourself.
EARN IT. Then reward yourself.
Reward yourself….but start earning it first. Watch your life, your mind and your body change.
The view from the mountaintop is so much sweeter when you had to climb it to get there.